You have broken up with your boyfriend for what seems like forever. And Beyoncé’s ‘If you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it’ has become your anthem. You can’t quite seem to figure out why someone hasn’t snatched you up off the single market yet. Surely, your infectious personality must count for something, and you are easy on the eye too. You are constantly bombarded by your doting mother (and married friends) with the familiar and equally annoying question ‘when are you going to get married?”. Read on for five reasons why being single may be the icing on your cake, and why you should not rush to the Altar (just yet).
- You get to focus on yourself
This is the time when you get to develop and ‘find yourself’. Explore the world and your talents. Do all the things that you truly love to do: paint, write, draw, and if you are feeling adventurous, maybe even go bungee jumping! The world is your oyster!
- You make decisions on your own
If you are a woman who likes to do what you want, how and when you want, then you might want to bask in your singleness for a bit longer. As a single woman, your decisions are your own. As a married woman, you do not have the liberty of making decisions by yourself. You have to take your spouse’s viewpoints into consideration.
- You have more time for yourself
Who doesn’t want more time for themselves? When you are a single woman, you don’t have the same responsibilities as a married one does. Without a husband to cater to, time is not a luxury for you, it is a gift!
- You become more resilient
You get to handle difficult situations by yourself. With no husband to turn to for help or advice, overtime you develop the skills of problem solving. The end result is that you become more resilient. Talk about girl power!
- You get to sleep ( more comfortably)
Do you like to have the entire bed to yourself? Then you might just want to hold off from getting that shiny diamond ring. Without a husband sharing your bed, you get to toss and turn as much as you want to! And there is no one hogging the blanket, or nudging you in the rib when your foot finds its way to the other side of the bed. Ouch!
What you may not know is that I am married (Plot twist!). I have written this post because I have heard too many women lament over their singleness as if getting married is the pinnacle of success. Marriage is great (to the right man and for the right reasons) but don’t let it be your main focus. Remember that the number 1 is a whole number, and you don’t need another person to be complete.
Are you still eager to rush to the Altar, or are you going to revel in your singleness for a tad bit longer? Why or Why not? Share your comments in the comment section.